From the Heart
Sometimes those hills we have to climb in life look easier when we look at them with someone else. It’s good to be independant but important to be able to acknowledge when we might need some help. Looking at the hill is the first step in climbing it, let someone point out the way even if it’s a journey you will make alone.
~ Liza
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My son will always be a champion,
that’s to me if no one else.
He’s absolutely fantastic you see,
but needs belief in himself.
I couldn’t have made one better,
yes alright I did need a dad.
I brought him up all by myself,
and it’s never made me sad.
My son is the greatest champion,
not because he’s related to me.
But because he’s just astounding,
you have to know him to see.
He’s also a fabulous grandson,
an uncle, a cousin and a friend.
He’s just the best man walking,
about who this ditty I’ve penned.
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Daily Prompt – Champion
Sometimes the things that do best aren’t necessarily the things we look after. This thought came to me today while having coffee on my doorstep.
I live in a first floor flat at the moment and any sign of sunshine I’m out of the front door. Anyway I was sitting there looking at the empty pots thinking I will have moved by the time it comes to planting for summer when I noticed new growth in a couple of pots I haven’t touched. I’ve been deadheading and watering my window boxes but totally ignored the plants on the front steps.
It made me think of the things we don’t necessarily consider and how they continue to grow in spite of that fact. It also made me think of how much in life is beyond our control.
I suppose the same could be said for me. While I’m busy trying to control life and what happens to me, I continue to grow. I might not always be aware of this or the area of growth but it happens. While I’m thinking about who I am, I’m establishing who I’m not. While I’m focused on the care of others, I’m taking care of myself and while I sleep I’m waking up.
Now I wonder why the money tree has grown so much and wonder what this might mean. I really must stop this wondering and go in and take care of my chores now, because I’m not sure the same is true for them!
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Do you ever ask ‘who am I’ or ‘why am I here, what is my purpose’ or any number of questions that might establish what an earth we are doing here? I know that a lot of people don’t, many are more concerned with the everyday, how much money they have or where they are going on their summer vacation, but it’s a question I’ve always asked, it fascinates me.
I believe the purpose of life is to find ourselves, mature along our spiritual path, find our true selves and that is not the self we create in this body. I believe it is in realising ourselves, our real identity and inner spirit that is our ultimate goal here, to find ourselves in this labyrinth we call life.
We create personalities based on our experience of life, environment, relationships and the things that happen to us along the way. I believe we have travelled many lives and therefore inhabited many different personalities but there is a true self that travels with us, a self separate from the ego, yet often out of reach.
When I ask who am I, it is because I am questioning what I am outside of the ego, outside of life. I’m looking for my spirit, the one that travels through time, space, thought and lifetimes. This body I’m travelling in now is just a vessel, it holds my spirit while I’m here, but that’s all. If I wasn’t in this body I think I would still be here but in a different form, a purer, more knowing form maybe.
I practice past life regression, I’ve been regressed a number of times now and regress others and one thing I have found interesting in all of these regressions I have never found myself knowing who I am. I have never regressed anyone else to a point in their past life where they felt they had the answers. I still hope to find myself somewhere knowing more than I do now but I’m not sure it’s possible. Maybe we keep coming back until we find ourselves and then maybe move on elsewhere, if this is the school of life maybe we move onto university on another astral plane. Some of the personality traits, fears and beliefs come from past life experiences and it’s useful to recognise and understand these to release blocks we might have now.
I have never heard of a regression therapist finding Buddha or anyone else like that, usually we are just normal everyday people, please let me know if you know any better. I was a doctor once, I found myself after on the internet, I looked exactly the same as during my regression and the story was the same yet I didn’t know any more about life. I might have had a fantastic brain when it came to medicine but I didn’t know any more about myself. Those people who think they might have been Cleopatra or Nelson usually just lived in that era and probably never met them, the recollection of the past life is just connected to the time and not the figure.
I also practice future life progression (FLP) but I have only ever wanted to move forward in this actual life, I haven’t wanted to explore lives ahead, not just yet anyway. I think FLP is a great tool in helping us see our way forward, I think we can bring things back that help us get there quicker and understand the way but for me this life is enough at the moment. I have witnessed and taken others forward to future lives, one guy described being able to communicate telepathically and travel by thinking he was there, it is fascinating but not for me yet. You see a small part of me believes that if I find myself in the future it will mean I’m still searching for meaning. I’m not suggesting that I think for one moment I will understand all there is here, reach enlightenment and never have to come back but I’m hoping I’ll get closer.
I have moments of awakening, in my dreams, in meditation and on walks through nature but then the ego steps in and says ‘oh no you don’t’! I’m hoping to get there at some point, I’m hoping to get closer to knowing who I am but for now I’m just on the cusp.
Daily Prompt – Cusp
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I don’t believe in living in the past but believe it incredibly important to make some sense of it in order to understand ourselves today. If we don’t know where we come from, how will we ever know where we are going.
The past is important in that it has shaped us into the people we are today. Our lives are dictated in a way by our experiences, good and bad, and if we don’t understand them then it is difficult to fully understand ourselves.
Many of us recreate events unconsciously because we don’t understand them. I married my father, or somebody very similar because my father walked out on us when I was a very young child. I know it’s quite common that we might marry someone very similar to our own parents, familiarity maybe but it’s good to understand why. When we understand where we come from it’s less likely that we will keep repeating the same mistakes.
I spent a period of time not believing in myself as my experience told me I wasn’t worth believing in, I had a terrible time with rejection of any sort. I still don’t like it much but I know now, I’m okay. I won’t continually be judged because of who I was, but who I am today. I spent a long time gathering possessions that might up my status somehow, I didn’t come from a wealthy home and believed I needed possession to speak for me. Only on thinking about where I come from and getting to know myself better am I able to let some of these things go.
Life story work is a process that’s often undertaken with children in care so they are able to recognise their past, understand the present and plan for the future. It’s also a routine part of preparing children for adoption. Life story work is often used with those suffering dementia to develop a biography and help those caring for them communicate their backgrounds, like interests, identity and who and what is important to them. It’s hugely beneficial in helping someone understand their past experiences and life events.
Our life stories are so important, we need to understand and own our stories. Some of us do better than others, writers for might as they find inspiration from their own experiences. I’m sure there are plenty of other examples such as therapists who have had to undergo therapy as part of their training. But I find it amazing how many people don’t understand their own stories.
I’ve worked with life stories during my career with children, I’ve also worked on my own life story and helped others with this too. I think life story work is beneficial to anyone wanting a better understanding of themselves, it’s healing and can remove the blocks that hold us back. It’s more than just a therapeutic tool, it’s helpful to anyone working on themselves, and lets be honest aren’t we all?
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I’m on the cusp of all that’s good,
I’ve found my way at last.
I now know where I’m heading,
right now my outlooks vast.
It took a while to get this far,
I made a few wrong turns.
But nothing I did was wasted,
I had lessons I had to learn.
Now I’m on the cusp of my wish,
to live a life that’s worthwhile.
I’m stepping out to forever now,
I believe it will bring a smile.
I can finally see the way ahead,
as I drew the map on my way.
I’m happy it’s all turned out good,
hope it’s the way things stay.
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Daily Prompt – Cusp
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I read this fantastic post by Kayla at essencentral It inspired me to think about my own passions. In her post Passion and Purpose she asks a number of questions so I thought I’d have a go at answering them.
Please give Kayla’s post a read, it’s truly inspiring!
What puts a smile on my face?
People, my family and friends and people in general.
Relationships are important to me, I like to communicate and not on a superficial level either. I love deep conversation with like minded people. I like to explore emotions and I like to help others work out what’s meaningful, I like to find purpose to life. Sometimes we have to talk to bring out what’s inside and talking to others who understand is the best way to do this. I like to help others work things out, it makes me happy, it helps me feel worthwhile. I’m empathic and work with energy, I’m also able to connect authentically as a human being which is essential in building relationships. I like to look after people, I like to show others how to look after themselves or others. We are made up experiences and have amazing stories to tell, I like to help people tell their stories.
Writing, it’s the outlets for my thoughts, how I work myself out and make sense of my life or the world around me. I find writing both healing and inspiring, it’s a way to tell our stories.
Nature and the lessons it teaches us, the messages of growth and transformation, the beauty of it. I am always out in nature, it feeds me and if I’m out of sorts at all it heals me.
Memories….
What do I find easy?
Communicating, I like people so it’s easy for me. I’m not afraid of my feelings either, I find it easy to express myself, I wear my heart on my sleeve and I’m not afraid of what others might think.
I’ve spent the last 20 years working with people traumatised by their experiences in therapeutic settings. I’m able to work in situations of crisis, I’m empathic but able to separate myself from the trauma and not take it with me.
I’m practical, I’m able to break things down into something that’s easier to manage and understand. This has been helpful in managing groups and individuals but also in direct work, helping others work out what might seem muddled and insurmountable.
I’m not afraid of public speaking, in fact I quite enjoy it even if I have to harness a bit of fire by putting on my lipstick and high heals!
I like to look after others, feed them, cook for them, care for them and make them happy. I like to cook, I find it easy and my friends seem to like my food, I’m usually the designated cook!
What sparks my creativity?
Love, nature, kindness, fresh food, colours, beauty and people and the words they use.
Stories, I think we all have a story to tell and I love to think about the story behind something. Walking in nature I like to think about what it’s saying, what is the message it’s giving. The world around us teaches us so much if we take the time to look and listen.
What would I do for free?
All of the above but it would be nice to be paid 😉
I will always help people, lends an ear, help them work out their problems. As a child I was called Liza the Advisor and it’s sort of continued although I won’t interfere, people have to want help. I don’t believe in telling others how to live their lives.
I write every day, it’s my therapy and I have to cook to eat!
What do I like to talk about?
Love, emotions, philosophy, spirituality, health…..
I like to talk but I don’t like to waste my words, idle chit-chat isn’t for me unless it is leading somewhere deeper. I like meaningful conversations even if we might be searching for answers forever as I love to philosophise.
I’m into spirituality and love to talk with like minded people, explore and learn new things. I’m constantly thinking about my purpose, where I’m going and if I’m on track, it’s important to me.
I love to talk but I think silence important too, we can discover ourselves in silence. To sit in silence with another can be incredibly powerful. Look into each others eyes and connect as souls.
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Thanks for the questions Kayla, now for my passion plan 🙂
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Put on your golden goddess cloak and create beauty, step out as the goddess you naturally are and bring transformation to everything you touch.
There is a goddess of creativity in all of us just waiting to break free. We create through everything we do, each and every action we make creates ripples that touch others.
If each of us consciously wear this goddess cloak today, just think of the difference we could make. Lets invite the goddess of creativity to step out amongst us.
~ Liza
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At times we have to stand up for what we believe in, hold our heads up, stand out from the crowd and speak our truth. Change will only come about when we remain true to ourselves and true to our values.
~ Liza
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To help another we need to ensure first that we have the capacity to hold their emotions, sometimes hold them until they are able to manage themselves. Make sense of these muddled emotions, process them and give them back in a way they can be understood and worked through. To do this, we need to ensure we are well prepared and able to to act as a safe container. Because if someone puts their trust in us to help, we need to make sure our container is water tight.
~ Liza
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