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The Influence of Experience

November 20, 2016 lizaaitken

What influence does our experience have on how we live our lives now, what difference does this have on how we manage and function day to day? How do the wounds of the past weep into our present day?

Wounds when not treated, continue to weep and seep into our lives, we can cover then up with a plaster but they will remain open until they receive the proper care. Like wounds our feelings fester and grow until we are able to whip off the sodden plaster inspect wound carefully and give it the time and care it needs.

If we don’t recognise and face our true feelings, those buried at the core of our being, born from experience like pain, fear and shame, they will continue to exist and rule who we are now, how we view the world around us and how we live our lives each day. These feelings will resurface time and time again until we reach a place in which we are able to face them honestly, acknowledge them in truthfulness.

In looking at our experiences, we should do so in truth, we have to see each feeling for what it is, not cover it up, or make it into something else. Ask what is at the root of the feeling, like who abandoned me, why has this left me fearful? We need to acknowledge the parts we played in events and get in touch with the feelings or pain and sometimes deep rooted anger.

It’s not easy acknowledging mistakes, selfishness, ignorance and stupidity, but we have climbed to where we are now up a staircase of challenges littered with questions, we have made decisions that aren’t always in our best interests, or the interests of others. It is not easy to acknowledge our mistakes but for me it’s the next step, for others it might be the helping hand they need right now.

I don’t think there are many who can say they have always walked a righteous path and if there are I question their honesty. I question if they have in fact ever really faced themselves and embraced all of themselves for what they are and what they have been.

How Deep?

November 20, 2016 lizaaitken

So what is great depth

and how far does it go.

Is it found in a place,

where nobody goes.

How deep should we travel,

is it found in our minds.

Like the deepening of thought,

in philosophy we find.

Who knows we’ve been there,

how would one know.

As to look at another,

the mind does not show.

To ponder on questions,

does not tell us much.

So how far is great depth,

could it be beyond touch.

The Richness of Being Without

November 20, 2016 lizaaitken

It could be said it’s easier to be true to yourself when you don’t have much in life. Your not concerned with loss of wealth because you have little to loose, nor are you concerned with reputation because nobody really notices or knows you.

When you can just be yourself with little regard for material objects or social expectations, I think that might be as close to truly authentic as a person can get. Living as true to ourselves as possible without being swayed by others or the demands of society, maybe that’s when we find the answers.

It’s a funny thing, that when we let go of the rules, live in truth and love, we naturally draw people to us for the right reasons. They draw closer because of their interest, because they want some of this love, they want to understand it and reach a place of happiness and contentment too. People are funny creatures, they continue to want what they don’t have, not realising not having is often the path for which they are searching.

Nature Lessons 87

November 20, 2016 lizaaitken

It can take us a lifetime to understand the real meaning of love in our lives. For a number of people to find, live in and become love is their very purpose here. Like the foliage on a tree that transforms into a beautiful picture of warmth and love before it dies, we too radiate love out into the world once we know and understand it.

~ Liza

Nature Lessons 86

November 19, 2016 lizaaitken

The world, a flower, the moon and sun are all round, like a circle if we draw or visualise them. The petals around the centre of a flower make that circle bigger, from a daisy to a sunflower the circle grows. I believe love is like this, if I could draw love I would draw a circle.

~ Liza

Nature Lessons 85

November 18, 2016 lizaaitken

Every living thing on earth is made up of energy. A tree and through it, to each individual leaf, fruit, flower and petal. A field and each and every blade of grass, crop and speck of soil across it. This energy works together, joining as a mass of energy that drives the world forward. Each one of us is the same, from a group of people to each individual, down to each atom within us, our potential is immense if we can harness this energy.

~ Liza

Funeral

November 18, 2016 lizaaitken

I went to a funeral yesterday, it was my friends mothers. I’ve known her most of my life so it felt like family. It wasn’t a sad affair at all, full of laughter and good memories. Pearl was ninty two and had a relatively good life, only really getting poorly at the end. My friend won’t mind me saying, but her mum was a cantankerous old girl, one of her regular sayings ‘please or offend, I speak as I find’. Luckily I think she liked me, or at least I don’t think I ever upset her, although it wasn’t the same for everyone. There were those who absolutely not welcome at the funeral, even in death Pearl would not be crossed.

My friend asked me to stay with her for the night, of course I did and we sat up drinking and talking until the early hours. We laughed a lot as we recalled some of her mothers antics. Pearl had a liking for the old fashioned liquid Camp Coffee and we added this to our espresso martini’s in her honour.

This morning before we parted my friend said ‘ I really enjoyed myself yesterday, we must do it again soon’. I don’t think she’d really thought that one through, at least I’d hope not because as nice as it was I’m sure we can think of another event we will enjoy as much, without someone having to sacrifice themselves for our enjoyment.

Thanks for the memories Pearl, you’ll not be forgotten.

Nature Lessons 84

November 17, 2016 lizaaitken

We are all born into groups, from these groups we move into other groups. We become so involved in which group that we are in on occasion we loose ourselves. Sometimes the best we can do is find our own place on the branch

~ Liza

Nature Lessons 83

November 16, 2016 lizaaitken

When we are able to connect to ourselves, understand our own workings and sometimes imperfections, we are far more able to connect with others. When we recognise and accept the feelings that are at our very core, allow them to be part of who we are without shame or fear we live in truth. We naturally relate to others and through understanding and compassion our networks widen, we become authentic.

~ Liza

Vulnerability

November 16, 2016 lizaaitken

I embrace my vulnerability,
it’s so necessary for me.

I’ve a willingness to show myself,
so you can really see.

A person who is fearful,
one who carries shame.

Who understands her feelings,
like those connected to pain.

There’s more to me, there’s love and joy,
these I bring out too.

If you can see my vulnerability,
why not show yours too.