Author: lizaaitken

Mother, daughter, sister, cat owner/slave. Thoughtful about life and trying to make it worthwhile.

To go with the flow…

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We usually lean in the direction the wind is blowing, we are often pushed along in life by things quite out of our control, we quite simply go with the flow. Fighting against the will of nature, or something much bigger than us, isn’t easy, often not necessary.  But on occasion there is a need to draw strength from our roots, stand firm and not be pushed into a place that is simply not right for us.

~ Liza

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To Win

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You reach a point in life where you realise that it is not necessary to win at everything, sometimes winning isn’t helpful to our growth either, sometimes to loose is to learn.

We are programmed to win, sometimes we cheat to get there, it’s instilled in us from an early age that we have to be the best, even if this means taking out our opponents along the way.  All our childhood games revolve around winning, from board games like snakes and ladders to imaginary games like cowboys and indians, doctors and nurses, the objective to solve the puzzle or win the day.

Years ago I started a bit of a tradition at my sons school sports day in the parents egg and spoon race. I did this by throwing the egg over my head and belting to the finish line to win. The children cheered loudly and half the parents followed my lead, a new tradition was born. I laughed and told my son our family motto was to win, if it meant cheating that was fine! Not so sensible when I think of it now but luckily for me, my son didn’t take any notice and saw it for the joke it was.

To conquer is to overcome, good if this is something helpful to us, such as successfully overcoming a fear or habit but not so when it is in a relationship with another.

What lessons can loosing teach us, take for example loosing your home. This might teach us that home is where our hearts are, home is a feeling not a building and home is a place full of love, not possessions.  Sometimes we learn the lessons the hard way, I’m not sure of the reason for this apart from the connection to growth.

Loosing friends and lovers might teach us we are looking in the wrong place, might show us that the qualities we once thought were important are anything but, or maybe we might need time alone, to focus on ourselves. Often when I look back and think of the people who have passed through my life, I understand why they are no longer here, we just don’t speak the same language anymore. That not to say I don’t love some of those people for what they gave me but I can see why I no longer need them.

I think life is probably what we need to win at, not conquer but get though. Face the challenges as if they are a game, give of ourselves and let each lesson count. Because if we don’t we know those lessons will come around again until we do actually conquer them.

 

Daily Prompt – Conquer

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Nature Lessons 205

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To be suspended in mid air, is just to float, without connection with the earth.  We all go through periods like this in life, periods where we feel things are beyond our control, where it is hard to settle and feel we have our feet firmly placed on the ground. At times like this, hold onto those that you have around you, feel yourself through them, feel your connection through love and friendship and know that you will eventually land where you are meant to be.

~ Liza

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Best keep mum…

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I would cause controversy if I were to sit in a spiritualist church and say out loud to a room full of practicing mediums ‘I’m not sure I believe in all this talking to the dead lark’.  But that’s the truth in a way, although I believe it at the same time.

I believe in life after death, I believe that the dead do continue and they are able to communicate with us, I’m just not so sure I believe in the way it’s practiced in spiritualist churches and centres. I think  they need to move with the time a bit, delve a little deeper and review their archaic rules and regulations. I am so fed up of hearing ‘I have your grandmother with me, she liked to knit’ or something else every grandmother in the western world liked to do.

When I die, if anyone goes searching for me I’m not coming back to say what I looked like, how I died and share a couple of very random memories, like do you remember when we went to the seaside and got fish and chips for our supper. I will have so much more to say, like yes, life continues and it’s all about love and if I give any evidence of my continued survival it will be mind blowing to the person searching, it will be between me and them and there will be no mistaking it was me. I would like to be able to share more of who I continue to be and how. After all my body didn’t go with me and I won’t still have blond fine hair and a fine figure! I shall probably have already told my loved ones not to look for me anywhere outside of themselves before I go anyway, and for my family, that will be fine.

You see I believe in the continuation of the spirit, so some of the things the churches talk about sits well with me but I know without a shadow of a doubt there is more. Take my mum, I know she is around me. She turns things on and off, she makes herself known and at times I feel her love so much it takes over. But she doesn’t go to the church all the time trying to contact the living as she can do that directly when she wants and has much more important things to do now. My mum is an educated woman, she is terrifically spiritual and while here on earth, believed deeply in the power of love. I know wherever she is and in whatever form she is learning everything she can about it, if it’s all about love as I’m sure it is, that is where she will have settled herself and where she will be working. She can read my mind, she knows that I know she is still around so she doesn’t have to use a third party.

I have had messages from my mum, proof of her survival from mediums but nothing I didn’t know, some things have been amazing because the medium knew them too, but nothing surprising to me.  So there is my questions, are they communicating with my mum psychically through me, are they picking out my mother from my own memories and energy, or are they in fact talking to her, honestly I just don’t know.

I have exactly the same questions if I try to link myself, I’m flabbergasted when I bring information out that can be accepted but haven’t a clue how I actually do it. I see pictures and feel and know but I assume it would be the same if I was tapping into energy too. This is why I would never make a really good medium, I haven’t the trust you see, I’m full of curiosity.

We carry so much with us in our energy, our subconscious and uncovered selves, so much more than we realise, ancestry, past lives, forgotten memories, it’s all their just waiting to be tapped into. We are capable of so much more than our minds allow at the moment, why limit ourselves to rules and regulations.

Now I’m not knocking the churches here and apologise if my thoughts here have upset anyone. I think there is certainly a place for spiritualist churches and mediums, for those grieving, those that are not sure about the continuation of spirit and those in need of love and support, but that’s about it as I think as life is for living and learning.

I won’t cause any controversy, I’ll keep my mouth shut or in slang, keep mum. Anyway, let’s be honest, they probably know what I think already!

Daily Prompt – Controversy

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Massive Change

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Challenges come throughout our lives that require us to make big changes and sometimes these challenges are massive. The changes we have to make can involve us needing to let go of things, sometimes through choice, sometimes the letting go is forced upon us through circumstance. Some of these life changes, rock our very foundations, we question who we are, but often the changes are necessary for our continued growth.

Life changes or challenges come in all sorts of ways, the loss of loved ones, health, loosing our jobs or homes and perhaps finding ourselves outside of anything we knew. Change can involve the letting go of possessions, beliefs, life structures and what makes us who we are. The letting go is necessary if what we have hung onto is no longer of use or just weighs us down. Often it’s people we say goodbye to, those whose worlds we just don’t fit into anymore.

We might initially fight change and continue to fight with every ounce of our strength until we give up, surrender and realise that fight it or not, change is going to happen.  So rather than be a lamb to the slaughter, isn’t it better to take control of things earlier and head off in the direction we are being pushed.

Life isn’t always easy, it’s not meant to be, sometimes it’s just one thing after another, some of these things rip the very heart from us. But each thing that happens to us, happens for a reason, there is a lesson to be learnt from everything that happens.

A few year back a friend asked me to describe my essence, what made me who I was. This was when I was starting out with my consultancy business and he felt it was a good exercise in knowing what I could offer. I found this quite difficult, maybe as it was the beginning of my life changing as it has. Today if I look at what I wrote there is a lot I don’t recognise. Today when I complete the same exercise, it looks totally different because I’m totally different. It’s perhaps good that I’ve closed my consultancy business now and I’m working in a different way.

I’ve learnt, when we continue to fight change, things get even more difficult because we are fighting universal plans and lets be honest, who can take on the universe. The best thing to do is embrace change, scary as this may seem, once we start to walk the right path and surrender ourselves, things start to go in our way. Opportunity presents itself and we find ourselves in the right place, meeting the right people and laughing again.

When I think back to all the difficult periods in my life it’s usually because I’ve been fighting things, challenges, often endings, usually the inevitable, and each and every one of these were meant to be. It’s so much easier to surrender, allow and accept change, embrace and welcome it when it comes because then it might not turn into something so hard to manage after all.

When we fight against the things that happen to us, it’s like the universe steps it up a gear just to prove to us we are not in charge. I sometimes think we are just actors, we have an invisible script to follow, sometimes presented at short notice. Okay I think there might be room for some ad-libbing but I don’t think we can totally change the play.

 

Daily Prompt – Massive

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