The centre of a flower, the heart of a flower does not break. It is only the outer, external layers that get broken by life but the centre remains whole.
~ Liza
Healing comes from within and if we enter into our own hearts, we can perhaps, with practice, start to experience a place of wholeness. We can discover a place in which we are whole rather than remaining trapped in a place where we are broken.
I have suffered trauma, I have worked for a number of years with those that have suffered trauma. I have sat with them while they have experienced the most unbearable feelings, held these feelings for them when it was necessary and helped them in various ways towards their recovery. What I have come to realise is that trauma does not go away, traumatic events have a way of returning to haunt us, the effects of past traumatic events continue to live in the body, they reignite and burn through us time and time again, they are after all our experience.
Trauma is experienced by the very humanness of who we are, the person we relate to and recognise and the one we identify with. Trauma is like a deep scar that has never really healed, we can continue to cover it, treat it or ignore it but like a scar it remains.
I believe that if we can go into the heart and look at these traumatic events from a place of stillness, love and wholeness we can perhaps separate ourselves from the one who identifies with these feelings and they just might be easier to bare.
It works for me, I’m not suggesting it would work for everyone but to try is to know. I have come to terms with some of the things that have happened to me, I have watched as the observer, detached in a way from the event. Yes they can come back at times, times I’m not prepared, it was only the other day I found myself in tears, but I know where to go, I know where I can make sense of these feelings.
I feel it’s in our identifying with traumatic events that prevents us from moving on. They won’t ever go away, after all we are human, these things happened to us and won’t unhappen. But if we can allow ourselves time in the heart, to acknowledge these happenings, view them as an observer, as well acknowledging and sitting with the feelings they bring we might start to free ourselves a little.
I believe it’s the heart that holds the key to healing, the core of our being that is timeless and constant, the place that was there before the events happened and the place that remains whole.
I believe healing of any type comes from inside, we have the potential to heal ourselves if that is what is meant to be, we have the potential to be whole.
lizalizaskysaregrey©2017
If you’re interested in a heart centred healing approach please check out my other blog https://restingintheheart.com it’s in its infancy but I’m hopeful 🙂
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That’s very interesting, I was really upset when my first husband of 27 years was made redundant and received a very large payout. It wasn’t the money in fact I walked away with nothing no pension share even. It was the fact he told my son in law he did not want me to know he had a large sum of money, for fear I would want something…… how is it possible that someone who knew me from the age of 15 to 47 actually does not know me at all. Very sad really 😕
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It probably wasn’t you he didn’t know, it was more likely himself, we’ll the self with money anyway. All sorts of things come up with change, some deep rooted, lots from fear. Anyway my dear you’re much better off with lovely John 🙂 xx
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Indeed I think it was him thinking what he would do ! John is the love of my life, how my life would have been different if I had met him at 15 but then again I would not have learnt many lessons 😉
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Unfortunately we all have to 😉😘
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